However, from my point of view, this isn't always the case. Most of my closest friends are all currently single (a few have recently started dating). Not only are most of them single, but they've BEEN single for a LONG time. Personally, I've been single since the day I was born.
I don't think there's anything wrong with being single. I'm used to it. I really appreciate my friends being single while I'm single. It's when my closest friends get significant others that being single hurts. I get lonely.
But the problem from my point of view and with the singleness of my friends is that so many ladies are getting walked all over by males. I have a lot of male friends and single male friends--and I'll admit I don't know if women walk all over them. I do know of a variety of females who have been treated poorly by guys in college. It's like an epidemic. I'm included in this list. At one point many of my friends and I (males and females alike) thought I was certainly on my way to couplehood and then BAM! Single, as usual.
I think it's because of that problem talked about in the Bible. Genesis 3:16 says "To the woman he said, 'I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.'" This was God cursing women. It's not saying we're going to be part of great love stories. It's saying that we will desire our husbands and he'll focus on toiling in the land. Women are cursed and I see this played out all the time. Females give themselves willingly to a guy and he takes advantage of that. Most of the guys "don't know what they want" so they toy with the girl for awhile (my case, as well as friends). I don't know how to articulate my frustration except to say this sucks.
The worst part about this whole deal, well, second worst, after being treated like crap by some guy, is being willing to give that guy a second chance, or pine for him, or still like him...anything in that family. That's terrible. Why is it that women do this? Lack of confidence? Lack of willpower? I just can't figure out why.
Either guys need to be more sensitive to our feelings and realize that we throw ourselves in probably too enthusiastically or we need to become cold, hard bitches. I constantly wish I could have that cold attitude that males have; the ability to just put no emotion into any of it. I wish I could shamelessly flirt with anyone without a care in the world about if they might fall for me or not. I don't know how to solve this issue. I'd really rather be a happy, warm person rather than a cold, hard bitch. Really. I just need to find some balance I guess.
Disclaimer: I'm not a crazy psycho that no one wants to date. Really. :) I'm also not ranting because I'm single. I'd rather be single than be jerked around by, well, some jerk.
I'm just tired of seeing my great friends get dragged around by douchebags. I also don't want it to ever happen to me again. Once is enough, thanks.
Guys, just be gentle with female hearts. We seem to care a lot.
Ladies, don't fall so quickly, if at all possible.
That's it for now, I suppose, now that I've totally exposed my crazy side.
Crazy cat lady, Alicia
PS: This just adds to my personal belief that it's easier and better to be male. So annoying.
PPS: I just remembered that Valentine's Day is in a week! Good time for this rant, I guess.
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